Dr. Sandra Scott Wright, Ph.D

He Cheated: Hate Or A Four Letter Word by Dr. Sandra Scott Wright

I was told of a true story of a couple married some 30 years and one day the husband came home and said he was moving out. To make matters worse, he moved in with an employee on the same job where they, he and the wife work.  That was not the shocking thing, what was mine boggling was  this same wife would see this new found couple everyday, and she was cordial to both the abandoned husband and his new girlfriend.  I was told she didn’t have any bitterness and in fact was one of the sweetest persons you would ever know!  I didn’t believe this until I saw and met her for myself…

I am retelling this story

Because at the time I said “I am not such a woman.” Now as I look back over my life I realize I still would not be that woman, but I am all that I have allowed God to transform me into. Having been married some 19 + years, divorced and remarried,  I see the transformation in myself, only possible by the empowerment of the Holy Spirit.  I remember the day I actually became aware of betrayal and how it felt.  It was a message left on the separate phone of our home, one I vary rarely answered . This particular day for some reason I answered it..”I enjoyed our hugging and kissing the other day, I hope we can do it again.” That was the message on the phone.  I felt violated, betrayed, and any other negative emotion you can think of…

I remember when

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Sex or a Four Letter Word by Dr. Sandra Scott Wright

I find it quite interesting how women will measure the worth of a man by the size of his appendages.  Oh we all may be familiar with the old comparison big feet big _____.  We determine his worth by this criteria.  Oh there are more, i.e. the car, job, place of dwelling that he has.  For now however I want to deal with this one, his appendage or tool. I was asked the other day ‘Does size matter?”  I hesitated to answer the question, for I wanted to take time to contemplate on the true question.

We as women ask for things, and wonder why when we get them, they don’t satisfy.  Does size matter? Has performance set the standard for a great relationship?  Shall we grade our relationship on a scale of 1 to 10? What happens if you have a 3 has he failed?  Shall we dispense of the person as we do a useless piece of paper or soiled rag?

Then…

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Loss Is Gain: A Releasing To God Will Yield Glorious Promotion! by Dr. Sandra Scott Wright

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“But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your forefathers served beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.” Joshua 24:15

Loss is Gain. The stripping away, the abandonment, loss of job forced retirement, loss of a friend, husband, wife or child. Foreclosures, shall the list continue…Loss of ones health, vitality and youth. Suddenly you wake up one day, to find you are no longer young, you are fat, skinny, the hair is gray, the children have lives of their own…you no longer have to get up for work…where has it all gone…

Loss is hard, whether voluntary stripping, release or a ripping tearing away, loss is hard: Hard on the emotions, hard spiritually even for the spiritually strong, simply hard.  Child fighting with spouse, who will win, which one will you choose over?  Leave or stay, spouse doesn’t treat you with care anymore, leave or stay.  He is kind to you, provides, but doesn’t want to marry you…leave or stay.  You have been faithful in giving your offerings, and a good steward in all God has given you, and now your house is in foreclosure…leave or stay? Trying to be a good steward of the body God has given you, trapped by genetic predispositions of high blood pressure, diabetes, heart trouble, obesity, live or die, leave or stay…Wake up one morning finding the house feeling empty, spouse there but not there, leave or stay…

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Comfort:  A Higher Truth

Dr. Sandra Scott Wright

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We were taught if you were sad, angry, hurting, depressed, lonely, etc. all we had to do was get on our knees pray, offer a sacrificial praise, or give a seed faith offering, name it and claim it, or call those things that are not as if they are…and everything would be alright…we did all those things and when we got done the problem was still there…Where is the comfort?  Watch the video and hear a higher truth.

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Storms Are Here sung by By Rev. Sandra Scott Wright

Storms Are Here sungy by Rev. Sandra Wright

Wind, rain, fire, clouds, dust, confusion, chaos, anger, bitterness, resentment, hate, turmoil, confusion, relocation, disorder, uprooting, disjointing, CHANGE….

The storm is here, the storm in now.  There is a shaking a tearing, an uprooting. Unholy unions being destroyed, leaches ripped off, codependency destroyed.  Wives carrying the entire responsibility of the spiritual and financial part of the family; Husbands walking in shame and failure hiding because they have been in default of leadership.  Husbands working job after job to give us what we wasn’t suppose to have in the first place.  The storm is here, the storm is now!

We thought he was supposed to give us everything we wanted and desired.  For him not to do so made him a failure in our eyes.  He gave us it all and he still remains a failure in our eyes…He thought he was to give us everything to the exhaustion and frustration of his soul. He could not be our God he could not provide us with all we wanted and even needed…he could not be our god.  He hides in failure; he hides in shame. Exhausted, frustrated, and then backs out slowly in comfort by pornography, all sexual perversion, alcohol, drugs, more fruitless work…who’s fault your fault his fault ours?

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We are At Center Stage; Are You Ready? by Rev. Sanda Scott Wright

My husband referees basketball so I asked him what did it mean to be at center stage. He is a man of few but precise words and his simple reply was, “It means all eyes are on you.”  I never thought of it like that, but it was quite apropos for that is what is where every believer is right now.

We as Christians are no longer allowed being on the sidelines. We have been threshed forth by the Holy Spirit onto Center Stage.  Have you found yourself the object of persecution, unfair requirements, and feeling like you’ve been taken advantage of?  Feeling overworked, underpaid, underappreciated, taken for granted, asked to do 24hours worth of work in 8 hours?  The list goes on. Have I captured your situation yet?  The bottom-line you; we have been placed right on Center Stage on the firing line.  We are being picked out to be picked on.  We have been lied on to see if we can be relied on!

It’s proving time.  We say we love God.  We say we have forsaken all to follow Christ…but have we really?  Being reviled we are to revile not.  Being despised we are to despise not.  We are counted as sheep before the slaughter.  The servant is not greater than the Master.

“Verily, verily, I say unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord; neither he that is sent greater than he that sent him. …I speak not of you all: I know whom I have chosen: but that the scripture may be fulfilled, He that eateth bread with me hath lifted up his heel against me. John 13:16,18

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